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Time’s choice latest cover photo is causing quite a bit of controversy:

http://storify.com/TheWeek/time-s-are-you-mom-enough-cover-the-soci...

 

Although I’m not into attachment parenting I don’t think this picture is as “gross” or “disturbing” as some people do.

But it worked, I’ll be seeking out an issue this week.

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Yea I BF both my kids and I belonged to a Moms group and its leader suggested all children be breastfed for AT LEAST 2 years.

I cannot do it.  I BF my son for 13 months, and my daughter 9 months (she completely lost interest).  But if this woman wants to BF her son at the age of 3 more power to her.

But I honestly thinks its a little weird in my opinion.  But that is just me.

I think it is the media's way of taking the extreme of something and using that as the flash point. That is what I am disppointed in. The article is about attached parenting. Why not just show a 3 yr old child sleeping in his parents bed? Because it wouldn't have had that shock value.

As for breastfeeding, I was medically unable to do it with either of my boys. If I had been able I don't imagine that I would have gone past 6-9 months though. That is my personal feeling but I do not question other's on theirs.

There are quite a few countries that breastfeed up to 5 yrs and it's recommended by WHO (World Health Org). I intially thought it was gross/weird until I started educating myself on it. It didn't change my own feelings about breastfeeding (if I had been able to), but it opened my mind up to those who choose to breastfeed longer than 12-18 months.

You are absolutely right about this cover being "sensationalist" and also extended breastfeeding being the norm in other countries.

This is not the norm here in the U.S. which makes me look as this being "weird"  Many cultures believe eating animal embyros (aka chicken eggs) is absolutely abhorrent.

So my weird...is def someone's normal, I guess and vice a versa.  

Jennifer Lasseter said:

I think it is the media's way of taking the extreme of something and using that as the flash point. That is what I am disppointed in. The article is about attached parenting. Why not just show a 3 yr old child sleeping in his parents bed? Because it wouldn't have had that shock value.

As for breastfeeding, I was medically unable to do it with either of my boys. If I had been able I don't imagine that I would have gone past 6-9 months though. That is my personal feeling but I do not question other's on theirs.

There are quite a few countries that breastfeed up to 5 yrs and it's recommended by WHO (World Health Org). I intially thought it was gross/weird until I started educating myself on it. It didn't change my own feelings about breastfeeding (if I had been able to), but it opened my mind up to those who choose to breastfeed longer than 12-18 months.

I agree Jennifer...they were trying to go for shock value. I feel like they tried to make the kid on the cover look even older than he is...he is 3. I thought (my opinion) he looks older with how they set up the photograph. I have no problem with extended breastfeeding. Our country has way over sexualized breast and have forgotten what they are intended for. I did not do extended breastfeeding with my daughter but I do not think it is weird or gross for those that do. I do practice a lot of the attachment parenting but not all of it. I would definitely be interested in reading this article and seeing the angle to go with it. 

You are right, we are ingrained with what our society feels is normal and not normal. I will admit I looked at the pic and was like "that kid is way to big for that!!" but then my 5 yr old still sleeps in my bed most nights and if we are rushing to get somewhere I would let him shower with me up until recently. For alot of people that is also weird. So who am I to judge?

The more I am seeing about this article on FB and such the more I am LESS likely to read the magazine. I find it disappointing that a reputable mag like Time would do something for such shock value. Extended breast feeding is just one of many components of attached parenting, but it is the most controversial simply because our country is so sexually driven, but yet sexually uptight.

You are absolutely right about this cover being "sensationalist" and also extended breastfeeding being the norm in other countries.

This is not the norm here in the U.S. which makes me look as this being "weird"  Many cultures believe eating animal embyros (aka chicken eggs) is absolutely abhorrent.

So my weird...is def someone's normal, I guess and vice a versa.  

Jennifer Lasseter said:

I think it is the media's way of taking the extreme of something and using that as the flash point. That is what I am disppointed in. The article is about attached parenting. Why not just show a 3 yr old child sleeping in his parents bed? Because it wouldn't have had that shock value.

As for breastfeeding, I was medically unable to do it with either of my boys. If I had been able I don't imagine that I would have gone past 6-9 months though. That is my personal feeling but I do not question other's on theirs.

There are quite a few countries that breastfeed up to 5 yrs and it's recommended by WHO (World Health Org). I intially thought it was gross/weird until I started educating myself on it. It didn't change my own feelings about breastfeeding (if I had been able to), but it opened my mind up to those who choose to breastfeed longer than 12-18 months.

Agree! :-)

I practiced everything in regards to attachment parenting...except the extended breastfeeding part.  My daughter sleeps in bed with me (3).  And my son just recently started sleeping in his own bed (7).  I did babywearing all of it.

But yes some of the FB comments really are fired up over this cover.  

TIME def got what it wanted...more attention.


Jennifer Lasseter said:

You are right, we are ingrained with what our society feels is normal and not normal. I will admit I looked at the pic and was like "that kid is way to big for that!!" but then my 5 yr old still sleeps in my bed most nights and if we are rushing to get somewhere I would let him shower with me up until recently. For alot of people that is also weird. So who am I to judge?

The more I am seeing about this article on FB and such the more I am LESS likely to read the magazine. I find it disappointing that a reputable mag like Time would do something for such shock value. Extended breast feeding is just one of many components of attached parenting, but it is the most controversial simply because our country is so sexually driven, but yet sexually uptight.

You are absolutely right about this cover being "sensationalist" and also extended breastfeeding being the norm in other countries.

This is not the norm here in the U.S. which makes me look as this being "weird"  Many cultures believe eating animal embyros (aka chicken eggs) is absolutely abhorrent.

So my weird...is def someone's normal, I guess and vice a versa.  

Jennifer Lasseter said:

I think it is the media's way of taking the extreme of something and using that as the flash point. That is what I am disppointed in. The article is about attached parenting. Why not just show a 3 yr old child sleeping in his parents bed? Because it wouldn't have had that shock value.

As for breastfeeding, I was medically unable to do it with either of my boys. If I had been able I don't imagine that I would have gone past 6-9 months though. That is my personal feeling but I do not question other's on theirs.

There are quite a few countries that breastfeed up to 5 yrs and it's recommended by WHO (World Health Org). I intially thought it was gross/weird until I started educating myself on it. It didn't change my own feelings about breastfeeding (if I had been able to), but it opened my mind up to those who choose to breastfeed longer than 12-18 months.

Sexually driven yet sexually uptight...I love it! Thank you for saying that! 

Jennifer Lasseter said:

You are right, we are ingrained with what our society feels is normal and not normal. I will admit I looked at the pic and was like "that kid is way to big for that!!" but then my 5 yr old still sleeps in my bed most nights and if we are rushing to get somewhere I would let him shower with me up until recently. For alot of people that is also weird. So who am I to judge?

The more I am seeing about this article on FB and such the more I am LESS likely to read the magazine. I find it disappointing that a reputable mag like Time would do something for such shock value. Extended breast feeding is just one of many components of attached parenting, but it is the most controversial simply because our country is so sexually driven, but yet sexually uptight.

You are absolutely right about this cover being "sensationalist" and also extended breastfeeding being the norm in other countries.

This is not the norm here in the U.S. which makes me look as this being "weird"  Many cultures believe eating animal embyros (aka chicken eggs) is absolutely abhorrent.

So my weird...is def someone's normal, I guess and vice a versa.  

Jennifer Lasseter said:

I think it is the media's way of taking the extreme of something and using that as the flash point. That is what I am disppointed in. The article is about attached parenting. Why not just show a 3 yr old child sleeping in his parents bed? Because it wouldn't have had that shock value.

As for breastfeeding, I was medically unable to do it with either of my boys. If I had been able I don't imagine that I would have gone past 6-9 months though. That is my personal feeling but I do not question other's on theirs.

There are quite a few countries that breastfeed up to 5 yrs and it's recommended by WHO (World Health Org). I intially thought it was gross/weird until I started educating myself on it. It didn't change my own feelings about breastfeeding (if I had been able to), but it opened my mind up to those who choose to breastfeed longer than 12-18 months.

I, too, like the comment of "sexually driven yet sexually uptight" hits the nail right on the head! Totally. I let my kids decide when they were ready to pull away and be independent and it was different for each one but none of them nursed until 2 even--they were just too busy and off doing other things. They also never used a bottle either so...they did however sleep with me for awhile which was fine until they disturbed my sleep. Amazingly, they have all grown up to be balanced, independent, amazing young people who are well grounded and who are all individuals. So, I'm wondering where everyone keeps getting that these kids are going to need a shrink/Dr. Phil to sort out their mommy issues later in life.  I am disappointed that Time chose to sensationalize the issue to sell their magazine--I thought better of them prior to now. I guess the economy downturn has had a negative effect on every business even the ones we thought would remain on the high ground. 

You are right Cherie. Studies have shown that children who come from families where attatchment parenting is applied or even somewhat applied tend to be more independent and self sufficient when they grow up. Kids who have their needs attended to and not force to cry it out and such are not the ones who end up needy and clingy. I am totally with you too on them choosing breastfeeding of all things as the topic to sensationalize. This country does not have the best breastfeeding rates or views for that matter so way to make it that much harder. The excuse I have heard used over and over again is "well that is what sells magazines...showing the extreme"...I do not care that still does not make it right or ok.

Cherie Schneider said:

I, too, like the comment of "sexually driven yet sexually uptight" hits the nail right on the head! Totally. I let my kids decide when they were ready to pull away and be independent and it was different for each one but none of them nursed until 2 even--they were just too busy and off doing other things. They also never used a bottle either so...they did however sleep with me for awhile which was fine until they disturbed my sleep. Amazingly, they have all grown up to be balanced, independent, amazing young people who are well grounded and who are all individuals. So, I'm wondering where everyone keeps getting that these kids are going to need a shrink/Dr. Phil to sort out their mommy issues later in life.  I am disappointed that Time chose to sensationalize the issue to sell their magazine--I thought better of them prior to now. I guess the economy downturn has had a negative effect on every business even the ones we thought would remain on the high ground. 

My only beef with it is the title, "Are you mom enough" implies that if you can't breast feed or choose not to, you're not a good enough mom. I struggled for almost two months, blisters, blood and tears to breast feed, surgical tubing, pumping and all!.... I'm glad I did! I nursed until my daughter was 15 months, but i wouldnt wish that experience on any new mom, and would NEVER want a mom to feel guilty about her choice! Which is how the cover would make me feel!

Working in public health, I know how important breast feeding is, it's a shame our society doesn't support it as it should BUT what's even more shameful is the guilt society places on mothers for NOT doing it!! Damned if you don't, sneered when you do (in public or at work).

I love the way you said "Damned if you don't, sneered when you do..." So true!

Magali Jorand-Fletcher said:

My only beef with it is the title, "Are you mom enough" implies that if you can't breast feed or choose not to, you're not a good enough mom. I struggled for almost two months, blisters, blood and tears to breast feed, surgical tubing, pumping and all!.... I'm glad I did! I nursed until my daughter was 15 months, but i wouldnt wish that experience on any new mom, and would NEVER want a mom to feel guilty about her choice! Which is how the cover would make me feel!

Working in public health, I know how important breast feeding is, it's a shame our society doesn't support it as it should BUT what's even more shameful is the guilt society places on mothers for NOT doing it!! Damned if you don't, sneered when you do (in public or at work).

I agree 100%! I wasn't producing enough milk to feed my baby and the guilt I felt was overwhelming, especially as I used to work on "Breast is Best" campaign. The looks I would get from some people when I pulled out a bottle to feed my baby were horrible, I felt that I constantly had to explain myself.

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